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????3. 提前選好一個(gè)議題。從會(huì)議日程當(dāng)中選擇一個(gè)對你非常重要的項(xiàng)目，提前進(jìn)行準(zhǔn)備，如此一來，提到這個(gè)議題的時(shí)候，你才有機(jī)會(huì)發(fā)言。當(dāng)你逐漸習(xí)慣了發(fā)言之后，可以增加更多議題，但最開始的時(shí)候只針對一個(gè)議題發(fā)言會(huì)助于你建立自信。 ????4. 提出問題。要想更加習(xí)慣發(fā)言，有一個(gè)最簡單的方法，就是其他人提出的某個(gè)觀點(diǎn)令你感興趣時(shí)，要求對方對這一點(diǎn)進(jìn)行詳細(xì)闡述。加芬克爾稱：“通過更加深入地探討其他人的意見，你會(huì)覺得自己已經(jīng)參與其中，進(jìn)而成為一名積極主動(dòng)的參與者。”你甚至可能從中學(xué)到一些對你來說非常重要的新東西。 ????5. 不要自我審查。他建議：“每次開會(huì)前，承諾至少要說出一個(gè)自己想到的觀點(diǎn)，”而不是在思考如何發(fā)言的時(shí)候，還要做自我批評或者干脆停下來。加芬克爾表示，一旦形成了一種習(xí)慣，“當(dāng)你具備無需事先準(zhǔn)備也能參與討論的能力后，就能克服怕說錯(cuò)話的擔(dān)憂了。” ????6. 承認(rèn)不同意見不可避免——而且它們非常有用。加芬克爾引用了《應(yīng)用心理學(xué)雜志》（Journal of Applied Psychology）發(fā)表的一項(xiàng)研究，研究得出的結(jié)論稱：“即便反對的觀點(diǎn)是錯(cuò)誤的，也能引發(fā)其他人更全面的思考，進(jìn)而產(chǎn)生更多解決方案，提高解決問題的創(chuàng)造力。”所以，不要猶豫，抱著尊敬的態(tài)度提出自己的不同觀點(diǎn)。 ????7. 不要放棄自己的權(quán)利。加芬克爾發(fā)現(xiàn)：“開會(huì)時(shí)屈從于老板或其他高層，或受到其他人脅迫時(shí)，人們通常都會(huì)選擇順從。但在這個(gè)過程中，你其實(shí)是放棄了自己的權(quán)利。事實(shí)上，如果有人——尤其是所謂的下屬——堅(jiān)持自己的觀點(diǎn)，通常都會(huì)引起高層的關(guān)注。所以，要抓住機(jī)會(huì)展示自己的實(shí)力和能力。” ????當(dāng)然，這些都需要拿出時(shí)間進(jìn)行練習(xí)。尤其是因?yàn)椋悻F(xiàn)在需要改變的是，你總把自己的想法藏在心里這個(gè)根深蒂固的習(xí)慣。但為此所做的努力都將是值得的。打破沉默不僅有助于自己的職業(yè)發(fā)展，而且加芬克爾發(fā)現(xiàn)：“如果你不分享自己的知識(shí)和觀點(diǎn)，那你實(shí)際上是在給會(huì)議和整個(gè)公司幫倒忙。”祝你好運(yùn)！ ????反饋：你是否曾克服過不愿意在會(huì)上表達(dá)自己觀點(diǎn)的情緒？你是如何做到的？歡迎評論。（財(cái)富中文網(wǎng)） ????譯者：劉進(jìn)龍/汪皓 |
????3. Choose a topic ahead of time. Pick out one item on the agenda that's important to you and prepare in advance, so you'll be ready to chime in when the subject arises. As you get more accustomed to talking, you can do this with several topics, but starting with just one will build your confidence. ????4. Ask questions. One of the easiest ways to get more comfortable with speaking is to ask others to elaborate on a point they've made that interests you. "By probing a little more deeply into someone else's comment, you'll feel engaged and become an active participant," Garfinkle says. You could even learn something new that might turn out to be important. ????5. Don't censor yourself. "Commit beforehand to expressing at least one idea that pops into your head" at each meeting, he suggests, without second-guessing yourself or pausing while you edit what you'll say. Once this becomes a habit, Garfinkle says that "your ability to jump into a conversation without preparing first will overcome any lingering fears" of saying the wrong thing. ????6. Recognize that disagreements are inevitable -- and useful. Garfinkle cites research published in the Journal of Applied Psychology that concluded that "even when [dissenting] points of view are wrong, they cause the rest of the group to think better, to create more solutions, and to improve the creativity of problem-solving." So don't hesitate to respectfully raise a different point of view. ????7. Don't give your power away. "It's common in meetings to defer to a boss, others higher up in the organization, or someone who intimidates you," Garfinkle notes. "However, you may be giving your power away in the process. Senior executives will notice when someone -- especially a so-called underling -- stands firm with his or her own ideas. So look for opportunities to showcase your strengths and competencies." ????Of course, all of this will take a bit of time and practice, especially since you're trying to change a long-entrenched habit of keeping your thoughts to yourself. But it's worth the effort. Not only will breaking your silence probably help your career, but, Garfinkle notes, "if you don't share your knowledge and opinions, you're really doing the meeting -- and the entire organization -- a disservice." Good luck! ????Talkback: Have you overcome a reluctance to express your ideas in meetings? How did you do it? Leave a comment below. |
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