????卡洛斯?格林在一家大型共同基金公司負(fù)責(zé)退休規(guī)劃業(yè)務(wù)時(shí)，同事們都沒(méi)想到，他的五張信用卡居然共計(jì)欠款約40,000美元。

????為了新工作，現(xiàn)年49歲的卡洛斯和他的妻子凱瑟琳搬到了辛辛那提。兩人的一些關(guān)鍵決定造成了債臺(tái)高筑的局面：比如兩人根本沒(méi)有進(jìn)行預(yù)算，便決定凱瑟琳留在家里，照看兩個(gè)年幼的孩子；再比如買(mǎi)一棟大房子和一輛好車(chē)。很快，卡洛斯的預(yù)算就開(kāi)始吃緊。因?yàn)橛蛢r(jià)高企，除了上班和回家之外，他幾乎不敢開(kāi)車(chē)出去；家庭娛樂(lè)活動(dòng)也只有晚上在家里看看電影，每到月底都要為如何應(yīng)付賬單而焦頭爛額。最糟糕的時(shí)候，在下雨天，他不得不用硬紙板來(lái)堵住皮鞋上的洞，因?yàn)樗麤](méi)錢(qián)買(mǎi)新鞋。

????他回憶說(shuō)：“我的壓力太大了，我一直在想：‘既然我從事的是金融服務(wù)業(yè)，我應(yīng)該很清楚才對(duì)。我本應(yīng)該有更好的計(jì)劃。’這樣的局面令人難以接受。我感覺(jué)沮喪，對(duì)自己也很生氣。”

????他并非唯一一個(gè)不遵從自己的專(zhuān)業(yè)建議的人。我們聽(tīng)到過(guò)各種各樣類(lèi)似的故事，比如檢察官違反法律，宣揚(yáng)簡(jiǎn)樸生活的精神領(lǐng)袖卻在大肆斂財(cái)，獵頭公司的CEO居然表現(xiàn)糟糕，而基層護(hù)理醫(yī)生卻體重超重，嗜好吸煙等等。但對(duì)于這樣的事，除了諷刺（道貌岸然的政客嫖妓被抓后，人們甚至?xí)幸稽c(diǎn)幸災(zāi)樂(lè)禍）之外，我們是否也能從中借鑒些什么呢？

????首先，重要的是要理解，一個(gè)在職業(yè)生涯中只遵循一種理念的人，在私人生活中，為什么會(huì)沉迷于完全對(duì)立的一面。紐約組織心理學(xué)家、高管導(dǎo)師本?達(dá)特納表示，人們從誘惑領(lǐng)域中選擇一個(gè)職業(yè)的目的或許是把它作為一種防衛(wèi)機(jī)制，用來(lái)保護(hù)自己免受內(nèi)在缺陷的傷害。

????達(dá)特納說(shuō)：“其中或許還有更深層次的心理原因。吸引你的領(lǐng)域或許也正是你的弱點(diǎn)所在。”

????例如，有強(qiáng)烈反叛傾向的人可能選擇宣揚(yáng)法制的職業(yè)來(lái)抑制自己的缺點(diǎn)，而一位厭食者可能成為一名喜歡看其他人吃東西的美食家。但一旦面臨壓力，一個(gè)人會(huì)傾向屈從于誘使自己做出職業(yè)選擇的某種被壓抑的品質(zhì)，比如違法或暴飲暴食。

????這些人或許正在努力嘗試通過(guò)在職場(chǎng)中培養(yǎng)一些策略來(lái)彌補(bǔ)自己的弱點(diǎn)，幫助自己對(duì)抗缺點(diǎn)。有的人習(xí)慣性缺乏條理，卻可能成為一名專(zhuān)業(yè)的組織者，為自己混亂的生活尋找解決方案。雖然她不可能始終如一地將這些策略應(yīng)用到自己的生活當(dāng)中，但她卻能很容易理解客戶(hù)的困難，給他們提供有用的建議。達(dá)特納說(shuō)：“我們最擅長(zhǎng)為別人做的事情，而換成自己的時(shí)候，往往就變成了最不擅長(zhǎng)的事情。”???????

????When Carlos Greene worked in retirement planning for a major mutual fund company, none of his colleagues knew that he was carrying nearly $40,000 on five different credit cards.

????The debt built up quickly after a few key decisions Carlos, now 49, and his wife Katherine made when they moved to Cincinnati for Carlos's new job: deciding Katherine would stay home with their young boys without crunching the budget numbers, then buying a big house and a nice new car. Pretty soon, Carlos was on a strict budget, unable to drive anywhere but work or home because of the cost of gas, limiting family entertainment to movie night at home, and juggling bills at the end of every month to get them all paid. The low point came when he covered the holes in his dress shoes with cardboard when it rained, since he couldn't afford to replace them.

????"It became extremely stressful, and I was thinking, 'I'm in the financial services industry, I should know this. I should have planned this out better,' " he recalls. "It's hard for a man to swallow. I felt so frustrated and upset with myself."

????He's not alone in his failure to follow his own professional advice. We've all heard the stories of prosecuting attorneys who break the law, spiritual leaders who preach modest living while amassing fortunes, headhunting firms with disastrous CEOs, and primary care doctors who are overweight and smoke. But is there a lesson to be learned beyond appreciating the irony (and perhaps a bit of schadenfreude when a moralizing politician is caught with a prostitute)?

????It's first important to understand what may drive a person who built a career following one philosophy to personally indulge in the exact opposite. It could be that he chose a profession in an area of temptation as a defense mechanism in an attempt to protect himself from an inner flaw, says Ben Dattner, an organizational psychologist and executive coach based in New York.

????"There can be deep psychological reasons for that," Dattner says. "The areas that fascinate you can also be your areas of weakness."

????For instance, someone with a strong rebellious streak may choose a law-and-order profession to try to curb that flaw, or an anorectic may become a gourmet cook who enjoys watching others eat. But in times of stress, a person is prone to succumbing to the suppressed trait that led to his career choice, whether breaking the law or binge eating.

????These individuals may be trying to compensate for a weak spot by developing strategies in work life that help combat it. Someone who's chronically disorganized may become a professional organizer to find solutions to her chaos. Even if she can't consistently apply those strategies in her own life, she can easily understand her clients' struggles and give them useful advice. "We're often best at doing for others what we're worst at for ourselves," Dattner says.?????? ?