????所謂成功者，就是能夠把事情做好的人。如何把事情做好呢？他們敢于冒險，從大處著手，能夠制定并執行經過深思熟慮的計劃。還有一件事是大多數人沒有想到的：成功者善于尋求幫助。

????組建團隊、外包、協作、授權等等，雖然說法不同，但這些做法本質上都是尋求幫助。而且，尋求幫助是推動職業和個人成功的一個關鍵因素。

????不要他人幫助，是許多人的固定思維模式。我們認為這樣做會讓自己顯得軟弱。我們認為自己必須成為超人。我們以為會遭到拒絕。我們認為必須自己做好所有事情。不論出于怎樣的理由，有需要的時候，我們總是拒絕求助。但我們必須克服這種錯誤的觀念，以下是本文給出的建議：

????不要自以為是。沒有人，我的意思是沒有一個人，能僅靠自己就取得成功。你不可能也不應該事事親力親為。事實上，你往往并非某項工作的最佳人選或“唯一”能做這件事的人。尋求幫助是力量的表現，而非軟弱。尋求幫助可以為你騰出空間，讓你有更多的時間和精力。這是明智的策略。

????轉變自己的思維。將對尋求幫助的看法，從“我是軟弱的、沒有能力的失敗者”轉變為“我在從戰略上分配我的時間，以便專注于最重要的事情。”不要糾結于你無法做某件事，沒有時間做，或不具備專業知識這類事實。相反，想一下尋求幫助能夠給你帶來什么——交際的機會，重視同事的機會，更快或更好完成某項工作的機會，優化自己的時間與才能的機會。

????了解自己的同事。尋求幫助，實際上是利用寶貴的資源，以最少的資源用最快的速度得到最好的結果。換句話說，就是讓合適的人做合適的事。關鍵是組建合適的團隊。而最好的方式，就是了解自己的同事，培養人際關系網絡，主動建立關系。

????考慮一下自己的同事：他們的優點是什么？弱點呢？他們最近在做哪方面的工作？誰是優秀的團隊合作者？誰是出色的領導者？誰是好的執行者？你對自己的同事了解得越多，就可以更有效地利用他們的智慧，建立更出色的團隊。

????建立自己的團隊。在開始一個項目或一項任務之前，考慮下面幾個問題：

????該項目的范圍是什么？

????我之前什么時候曾經參與過類似的項目？

????我從那個項目中學到了什么，我可以如何利用它？

????我需要哪些幫助？

????誰是這個領域的專家或曾經執行過該任務？

????Successful people are people who get things done. How do they get things done? They take risks, they think big, and they make and execute well-thought out plans. There’s something else they do that most people don’t think about: successful people ask for help.

????Call it what you will—building a team, outsourcing, collaborating, delegating, etc.—it all amounts to asking for help. And that is a critical factor in professional and personal success.

????Many of us are hardwired NOT to ask for help. We think it makes us appear weak. We think we have to be superwomen. We think people will say no. We think we have to do everything ourselves. Whatever the reason, we don’t ask for the help we need. We have to get over that, and here’s how:

????Get over yourself.No one—and I mean NO ONE—got anywhere alone. You cannot and should not do everything yourself. You are not, in fact, always the best person for the job, or the “only” person who can do it. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Asking for help clears space for you and frees your time and energy. It’s a smart strategy.

????Reframe your thinking.Reframe what it means to ask for help from “I am a weak, incompetent loser” to “I am strategically allocating my time to focus on what matters most.” Don’t dwell on the fact that you can’t do something or don’t have the time or expertise. Instead, think about what you will gain from the ask—a chance to connect, a chance to value a colleague, a chance to get something done faster or better, a chance to optimize your own time and talents.

????Know your colleagues. Asking for help is about tapping valuable resources to get the best outcome the most quickly with the fewest resources expended. That’s a fancy way of saying get the right people for the job. It’s all about building the right team. And the best way to do that is to know your colleagues, cultivate your networks, and proactively build relationships.

????Think about your colleagues: What are their strengths? Weaknesses? What have they been working on recently? Who works well together? Who leads well? Who follows well? The more you know about your colleagues the more effectively you can tap their wisdom and the better team you will build.

????Build your team. Before you embark on a project or task at work, think about the following questions:

????What is the scope of this project?

????When have I worked on a project like this?

????What did I learn and how can I leverage it?

????What do I need help with?

????Who is an expert in this area or has executed on this task?